Think about something different during the sexual relation doesn’t work. Surprisingly, some of the “home-made” remedies that really get to work sound highly stupid. For instance, “making noises” or “moaning” while practising sex can be a remedy to avoid rapid ejaculation.

Premature ejaculation treatmentMyths about Premature Eyaculation

Myths and legends circulate about this dysfunction, mostly feed by word of mouth, websites, forums, etc. about treatments (therapeutics or pharmacologicals) for premature ejaculation. For example, the myth that “thinking about something different while the sexual relation” helps to postpone the arrival of the climax and last longer is fake. In fact, different experts assure that the only thing that is obtained is the decrease the cortical control of the ejaculatory reflects, making it even less lasting. Besides of creating a sense of frustration on the male, that cannot get either relaxed or concentrated during the sexual relation.

Likewise, we have all many times listened that masturbating 1 or 2 hours before the coitus helps lasting longer on the next sexual relation. Even though it might be truth for some people (the interval for achieving a second climax seldom has a longer period of latency), it is not for those people that for their age or characteristics have problems on achieving a second erection. Besides, a bad masturbatory practise (made in a rush, non-stopping, just for getting to the climax as fast as possible) can have fatal consequences for whom that practises it, based on the fact that he won’t develop control mechanisms that help him to identify the feelings that precede orgasm and therefore control his ejaculatory reaction. Actually, it is believed that one of the causes of the primary premature ejaculation (it is considered primary that PE that has been suffered by the patient since he first started having sexual relations and secondary that one which has emerged subsequently after having satisfactory relations in the past) are the bad practices during youth hood. It is highly possible, that those individuals that masturbates hidden and feeling guilty, trying to get to the climax as fast as possible, lately undergo on episodes of premature ejaculation. So it is recommendable that, every time that masturbation is performed, doing it properly: with pauses, without hurries, trying to focus on the feelings that unchained the orgasm and trying to postpone it as much as possible.

Other myths, like the ingestion of drugs (especially cocaine) or alcohol help lasting longer are very dangerous if trusted. There is nothing more dangerous than adding another additional dependence to a substance which is addictive in itself. And if that dependence has a sexual origin, it can be developed a psychological profile very serious. In fact, those substances only provoke a temporary impotency and in the end provoke all those well-known pernicious secondary effects in the organism.

There is also who assures that the use of two condoms at the same time (one over the other) allows to last longer. This is intrinsically related to the delayed condoms described above. As we will see, though it might work occasionally, it is not a real answer to the problem.

There are also other dubious treatments, with no science grounding or related studies that can enlighten its supposed profits. Most of them are related to millenary cultures, tantric treatments, taoists sexual practices, etc. Due to the lack of medical studies that can assure that terms as esoteric as “personal alchemy”, “way of ecstasy” and things like that are more than fun reading, we can assure that this information is worthy for a patient of PE. Many people would call it a lie or just interesting from a historical point of view. In fact, they can be as exaggerated as proclaim that the individual can achieve immortality practising sex under that guideline. However, thinking of it as a way of relaxation and non-stress techniques, some of them might be slightly interesting, as one of the aspects which detonates the PE is stress.

There is also a huge variety of treatments which more than real answers to the problem are just a kind of temporal “patch”. For instance, delayed condoms and anaesthetic creams, which can provide a temporal remedy, force the patient to used them all along his life, covering the real problem, which mostly has a psychological or conduct origin. Besides, the decrease of sensibility in the penis, though it might make the male last longer, will make the him experience a powerless pleasure due to the local anaesthetic.

Then, what does it really work? Which are the treatments for the premature ejaculation?

Surprisingly, some “home-made” remedies that really work sound really stupid. For instance, “making noises” or “moaning” whilst practicing sex can be a remedy to avoid premature ejaculation. This is due to the tendency on most of the patients of holding their breath during the coitus. However, making noises with the mouth while the penetration, provokes a proper control of the breathing. That is to say, those noises or moaning, work as a way out for all the stress that we have accumulated, and makes us go on a good breath rhythm. That’s why relaxation exercises and a correct breath rhythm during sex can help preventing EP. On the other hand, the main aspect is learning how to breath properly, moaning is just a natural way of achieving it.

There are also some clues related with the practice of some kind of moderated sport as a way to alleviate PE. However nowadays there are not medical studies that can assure it, it seems that the practice of a sport that mixes both aerobic and anaerobic development (swimming, weight lifting, bicycle, footing,…) at least 3 days a week during about an hour is recommendable to avoid PE. A healthy lifestyle, a balanced diet and avoiding stressing situations are also desirable on a male who wants to avoid that dysfunction.

Back to the topic of masturbation, diverse sexual therapists like Semans recommend it, also with the “start/stop” technique, as an advisable exercise against PE. That technique implies the sexual stimulation until the male feels that is about to ejaculate. Then it is the time to stop stimulating for some time, about 30 seconds approximately, and then take it up again. That secuence is repeated approximately from 5 to 10 times, before allowing the ejaculation. Bad masturbatory habits shall never been allowed, like trying to achieve the orgasm as soon as possible, we shall always try to auto stimulate us making breaks, without hurries and with no guiltiness. But this is only one of many techniques that can be applied. There are many modalities of that technique, just like additional methods that can be practiced in pairs described by diverse professionals. The anti-ejaculation point technique and the exercises suggested by Master & Johnson that can be consulted in this eBook mostly help to develop an ejaculatory control on those patients that suffer PE.

We shouldn’t forget that PE is a couple problem, and so the woman in front of a PE problem on the male, shall give as much support as possible, see him to the sexologist and be up to all the conduct treatments that the therapist advice them. Communication and free speech would be highly helpful for the patient. After all, PE is mostly a psychological problem, that usually emerges due to and inferiority feeling or insecurity (though these are only some of the causes). That’s why it is so important the emotional support and also having a detailed history of the couple and its sexual idiosyncrasy, from the medical point of view.

About meds and that stuff for PE we can talk about antidepressants as Prozac and other serotonin inhibitors (ISRS), external use anesthetics and PDE5 inhibitors (like , Sertraline, Paroxetine, Fluoxetine, Clomipramine, Lidocaine, Prilocaine). Antidepressants might work as they had shown a secondary effect that prolongs the time needed to achieve ejaculation. All those meds shall be given only under medical recipe and under no circumstances shall the patient auto medicate. Actually, the use of meds, choosing only a sexual therapy or a combination of both would be related to the characteristics of the dysfunction.

Generally speaking, the practice of conduct therapies on the couple, masturbation under some concrete methods, learning proper ways of breathing and relaxing, elimination of stress and other exercises and techniques related to that topic, and also some medicines previously mentioned, are the treatments more commonly used to avoid PE.

The best piece of advice is obviously, leave the shame apart, because after all we are facing a very common bad, suffered by many men and also go to a sexologist or an urologist, who can study a complete sexual profile of the patient and the couple and orient him to one treatment or another, and also turn to a psychologist if needed.

You can check the rest of our therapies and exercises related to PE on that ebook.