On an article published in the magazine “Revista Mujer de La Tercera” are two shocking stories told by two doctors, the urologist Reynaldo Gómez and the psychologist Fanny Muldman. In that article they talk about the problem of the premature ejaculation. That issue affects to 1 out of every 3 men and they try to fond in the causes of the problem. The article says:

“Before the man didn’t care about the lasting time of the coitus, neither about the control of the ejaculatory reflect. Sexuality was contemplated just as a part of the reproduction of the human being and not as a form of expressing affection and a way of communication with your partner.

In the 60’s with the impact of the contraceptive pill and the incorporation of women to the job market, a huge change in the sexuality appears; nowadays it is considered a relation based on the pleasure, though it can be linked to a reproductive goal.

- In the 70’s the premature ejaculation began to be considered among the sexual dysfunctions. Now, male are must satisfy their couples and so they set themselves to make the sexual relation as long as possible.

A premature ejaculator is defined as a man who can’t control the voluntary ejaculatory reflect, leaving unsatisfied his sexual partner in more than a 50% of the relations.

Today, sex is so common, without that old mistery, that has lost its sense. Teenagers are exposed to sexual experiences without being ready for them, not only for a lack of education, but also because the lack of real affection. This is tremendously stressing for the man, who wants to be good enough and even better, not understanding sex as a consequence and not as a goal.

- It is wide common among teenagers the masturbatory games in groups, where who is the fastest ejaculator is praised. That aspect, added to some wrong popular ideas, as the one that says that the faster you are the more sexual relations you have, make the concept of sexuality a total unknown for them.

- Doctor Muldman adds: “Those men, in general, tend to a use very short preliminary games afraid of loosing their erection. The couple, then, doesn’t reach an adequate level of excitation to get the orgasm with the penetration. In many cases, male blame women about that. They commonly become very tense and are totally scared of those erotic games, as they don’t want to get to excited and ejaculate without the penetration of their couples, and so the experience is usually mechanic and not very natural. They concentrate on the ejaculation so much that they don’t allow their couple to touch them and are distant for them.

The woman starts developing a great resentment, because she feels that this is a lack of affection to her. There is then a communication breakdown in the affection, sensuality and the erotic games. The man is disappointed and his own masculinity is devalued, and that can only carry to a psychological impotency.

The famous sexologist William Reich in his book “The function of the Orgasm” affirms that the premature ejaculation is lived as an evacuation of the insatisfaction. In the most serious cases, the seminal fluid is liberated with no control at all and pression on the penis, with is completely flaccid. “It is the worst humiliation that can face a man in front of his partner”, says the sexologist.

How to last longer?

That dysfunction has a solution, changing the interpsyche condition that is planted in the mind of the ejaculator. And so as he can control the reflect better the perception of himself changes and his psyche is powered. It is even believed that there is a connection between the eneurisis, not controlling the urine at childhood, and the issue of the premature ejaculation, as they are both a lack of control over your corporal fluids and have a mental cause.

Source: www.estilosdevida.cl (Estilos de vida)